Woman in our building who does not smoke and has never come into the gazebo ~ suddenly has a new boyfriend who does NOT live in the building but does smoke. Problem: Her old boyfriend who DOES live in our building and DOES smoke and is part of our "gazebo crowd". This gentleman for obvious reasons, does not feel comfortable sitting in there with the 'new' boyfriend AND his ex (who doesn't even smoke). I will call my friend Anthony and the new guy - the new boyfriend. (Just for clarity as I am discovering that drama is complicated to write about!) The new boyfriend is an alcoholic and drinks openly in the gazebo from early morning all day long. As you can imagine his behaviour changes the more he drinks. He does not wear a shirt. And once even went to piss in a bush. I think you can guess I do not like the new boyfriend. But I am finding that he is ALWAYS out in our gazebo. The first week I was great. The second week I noticed that a few people that normally come in - weren't. My friend Anthony being one of them, So now this new boyfrined has shoved Anthony out of the nest. Anthony is a quiet guy and wants no drama and so he just stays away. but now he has nowhere to smoke and just like Darren did to me,... he has been ostrasized. I don't find this fair but it's none of my business. it's up to the 3 of them to figure it all out.
(Taking a sip of water,...) regrouping my thoughts,.... phew drama is annoying,...
Two days ago I got trapped alone with him and he decided to tell me he doesn't want to date this Melissa as he doesn't like her that way. He jsut wants to hang out with her. (Ok,... sounds normal so far,...) but then he says,... I like it here in the gazebo. I don't want to break up with her as I won't have anywhere to hang out anymore. Now I see the clear picture. He is USING HER. Melissa is a brain injury patient and I will say the politest way I know how - she is vulnerable. I do not like this man hanging around her. But again - none of my business. Until he made it my business. He admitted he is an alcoholic who lives with his Mom at 47 and has no frineds and likes the gazebo and wants to hang here all the time now.
Not going to happen. He doens't live in the coumpound. I'm not even sure he lives here in Fergus. he's a bum who is using a vulnerable woman for his gain. He's another KIRK.
So,... yesterday I stayed in all day with pain. I was not in a good mood. And I obviously wanted to be left alone. But late last night I thought I would try and sneak out for a quick vape. But guess who was out there? He wasn't at the gazebo yet. He was just walking there. So I got to the gazebo first. I did a few quick puffs on my vape and then headed back in incase he was coming. On my way back in he said hi and something else but I just muttered hi back and scurried back inside. i didn't want to speak with him or anyone at that point.
Fast forward to this afternoon,... I am still in a lot of pain. I am still not in a good mood. But around 2 o'clock I decide I will try and get out to the gazebo as I know that sometimes just getting outside can make you feel so much better. I drag myself out there and who is out there again but him. This time he is loud and shouting at me. "What the hell? You ignored me last night. Is this the way it's going to be now? You hate me so you are going to avoid me? " and he jsut wouldn't stop. I was trying to talk over him to tell him I was not having a good day but he didn't care. So I left. I had not even sat down for i minute yet before I got up and left. He called me a snob and I was too good for him. Now his girlfriend and some other lady I have no idea who it was,... were there and Melissa just laughed. She thought the whole thing was funny. The sun shines out this guys asshole for her - she is head over heels in love and is already talking to me about getting serious with him. HE has no intention of even being with her. But I say NOTHING. NOT MY BUSINESS. But her thinking that him calling me a snob and too good for everyone is not only ok but funny - is not ok with me.
So I am now back isolated in my apartment. I am not going back out there until this asshole that doesn't even live here leaves. I talked to Anthony and he is the same. he refuses to go out there if he is out there. The new boyfriend is an alcoholic. he is inappropriate in he brings his 10 year old son into the gazebo as we somek weed with bongs. I can't tell you how many shades of WRONG that is. You don't bring a child into thiat enviroment. We just need this guy gone.
But again,... I am staying out of it. I will instead just hibernate up here until he is gone. But poor Anthony,... he literally got kicked out of his own livingroom. (We consider the gazebo to be an extention of our apartments - it's part of our home)
Living in social housing has been the biggest stressor in my life over the past year and has literally left me suicidal. I hate living here but there is no other place to go,...
I am trapped in poverty,... pain,... social housing and charities and benefits. Most fucking humiliating existance in the world.
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